On Sunday afternoon, I was discussing with a friend what we really love in a woman. Turns out that it wasn’t someone who cooked well or looks beautiful in a bikini (though we do appreciate such things!) but rather that we love being with a girl that is happy within herself. We love girls who radiate their happiness out to the world, so that when we walk along with them, we can bask in their beauty rather than being relied upon to “make them happy”.
I was just thinking about what women love in men and it occurred to me that there is a very similar dynamic. The best girls that I know (or at least my type!) don’t want to be with a man who constantly makes her happy: They want to be with a man on a mission. They want to be with a man who has a purpose in life, a reason for being and motivation for existence that is actually more than her… it’s almost like they want to be with a man who is going somewhere so that they can just focus on radiating their beauty while he looks after where they are going and how they are getting there.
Still, I’m not sure that all women really want to be with compassionate, non-needy yang men who love unconditionally and honour theÂ paths that people choose for themselves… I’ve met a few women for whom such men would be frightening and confronting!
I haven’t always known this. And even when I have “thought” this to be the case, I haven’t always behaved accordingly. But it seems to fit to me for the moment…