What do you really want?

Love without attachment?

Wonder without confusion?

Passion without limits?

Life for its own sake?

What if we could actually choose to live our own life? What if we could live deliberately with the intention that we made ourselves happy? What if we could really let go of living through the eyes of those around us – our friends, the media and our families – and choose to live with the purpose of enjoying living a fulfilling life? While the virtue of selfishness continues to be derided in the modern world, what if we could let go of the opinions of others and embrace our individuality and deliberately choose to be happy?

Staying in a relationship as a martyr makes neither you nor them happy. Being loving is not about surrounding others in cotton wool is it? We all have our path to follow, and it serves no purpose for us to stop others from learning the lessons that they need to grow. What is needed is for each of us to put ourselves first… We’re a long way off as a culture, but I wonder what would happen.

3 comments on “What do you really want?

  1. I don’t really agree with the concept of putting ourselves first but rather working within our own boundaries to make ourselves better people. Imagine you go to a Supermarket and no one opens the door for you when you are only just in front of it. Does this mean that you should repeat the same action and not open the door for another person. Despite only being a small thing, if we continue to give into selfish and unhelpful practices then there is no one who continues to try and implement the proper and respectful action. How difficult it is for you to say thank you and praise someone who delivers good service rather than to just expect it? It is good to be individual but not good I believe to be wrapped about in one’s self and introspective. We are all humans and people are sociable creatures. Where I work there is a lolly jar within the staff room. Only one of the Senior Staff has bothered to fill it and today I intend to take some sweets in to fill it. I am not really interested in whether people thank me for doing it or whether I should receive gratitude. I feel that if it helps others out then really it isn’t a bad idea. Maybe others will think, he’s wasting his time etc but if it takes one person to make the world a better place doesn’t it offer incentive for others to do so even if it is not immediate?


  2. Thanks, Garry. You are being very selfish!
    Selfishness in this context is defined by its intention and motivation, rather than by whether it benefits you or not. By filling up the lolly jar because you want to, for your own reasons, you are being self-motivated. To open a door or say thank you because you someone else might say ‘thanks’ would be to self-less; to do so because you feel that it’s the right thing to do is to be selfish.

    Think for yourself; Stop trying to make everybody happy; If, once you’re happy, you can share that light with others, feel free to do so – but only if you want to.

  3. Well if you call good morales and upbringing selfish, then that’s your choice. Don’t read into what I have said as it is only a thought but in this world is will probably be misconstrued a lot of ways.

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