Monthly Archive for July, 2006

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Gnothi se auton – Know thyself

“Our goal is to integrate all of the ways we contact each other in a single environment, using a single identity that spans phones, PCs and other devices. Our vision is to make it easy for people to reach each other using the mode of communication that is the most productive, on the device that is most convenient, while at the same time providing individuals with the highest levels of control over when and how they can be reached, and by whom.”
Bill Gates is still the richest man in the world (by an even greater margin since Buffet gave him most of his money!), and continues to drive forward towards the New World of Work.

This goal and vision are interesting for those of us excited by the trends and directions of our future… just imagine being able to identify the person that you want to communicate with, then select the most appropriate medium of communication for the outcomes that you hope to achieve from that interaction. And with the weight of Microsoft behind such a project, it might just happen… even if it’ll be filled with bugs and security concerns. Strangely enough though, that there are security bugs is almost reassuring at times – just imagine if the whole system really was watertight how much more dangerous it could be. I find the structure even more interesting though…

Designing our lives is as complex as designing the strategy for a major corporation – and far more important. We are each gifted with a range of talents, skills and abilities that are uniquely suited to pursuing our personal objectives and fulfilling a purpose. Yet how to we ascertain the direction we ought pursue? How do we remove the limitations of our beliefs so that we can consider what we really should be doing, rather than hiding from our greatest strengths? If you know that you would love to be a musician, but you are scared, you could just as easily end up as a mathematician or as a doctor. It’s not to say that being a musician is any greater than being a doctor – the issue, to me, is about being true to yourself… the great challenge that lies before us remains to ‘know thyself’.

We need to set goals and create for ourself a vision – for without vision, the people perish. Yet to capture a vision for our future and express our goals for manifesting that vision remains one of our greatest challenges, as individuals, as nations and as humanity. What is your vision? What are your goals?

The dearth of self esteem

Why are there so many people with a horribly negative self image?

I have been noticing how many beautiful people (being a single 28-year-old heterosexual man, especially noticing women!) are living a life hamstrung by their negative self-image. Sometimes that negative self-image leaves a talented, beautiful and charming artist unwilling to bless the world by letting her talents shine, instead avoiding competition and distracting herself with alcohol, drugs and sex. Other times it leaves a brilliant mind so overwhelmed with structured activity (with university, work, church, family responsibilities and volunteering in her ‘spare’ time) – being productive, but not allowing herself the time to really deal with the issues that matter – that she is left being busy to the point of exhaustion without making progress. Still other women will immerse themselves in their work, using their sense of achievement or perhaps contribution to grant themselves the vain hope that future external validation will overcome their lack of inner worth.

Men do it too… often using work, power, sex, alcohol and other drugs to distract themselves from their lack of self-acceptance. While achievement is great – and I believe that sex is an essential part of the continuation of the species – surely we are not placed upon this earth to merely exist as nodes of interaction within a complex chaotic system. Whether you believe that God created us, that we are the product of immense probabilities becoming inevitable over an infinite time period, or whatever the source, surely happiness and peace must be part of the plan.

Every spiritual path offers peace… how does our Affluenza-infested world run by psychotic corporations help us actually live a life of peace and fulfillment?

So many women long for a Mr Darcy without ever believing that they are worthy of one… though this is but a symptom of a larger problem.
(Thanks heaps for your help, Helen :D )

Ubersexuality and sugar and farewells

Sugar is bad for you… not just a little bit, but a lot. I used to love sugar: It’s time to let go. “My coffee” is an affogato – a short black with a generous scoop of icecream (ideally a doppio or double shot with three lovely scoops of fine ice cream, best served at The Three Monkeys in West End, though 16th on Park is good too… but I digress). It’s filled with sugar, caffeine and fat – and I love them. Yet I know that refined sugar is something that is killing me. It’s easy to break the addiction… just stop putting the damn stuff into my mouth!

Metrosexuality is so last season. It seems that we are finally encouraging men to be men… letting them stop waxing their chests and putting crap (I mean ‘product’) in their hair and realising that a men weren’t made to look like women. I’m an incurable romantic and passionate advocate for being pure of heart and focused on serving: I sense that we’re about to see a move towards valuing masculinity rather than hiding it… I think we’ll call it ‘ubersexuality‘. He’s hairer, smellier (think leather, cigars and the woods) and he’s more Martin Crowe than David Beckham.

I’m very proud to say that one of my karate students took out second in the world championships of the National All Styles competition. For a long time, I have criticised non-contact ‘contests’ as being dancing – making his success all the more remarkable! Travis has done us all proud… He didn’t know how to do it from day 1: Instead, he put 100% of his energy into every session and into every step along the way… he was training like a champion, like a black belt, from his first session. Maybe he’s aggressive – but we’re training to fight.

James Blunt’s “Goodbye My Lover” is playing again… it reminds me of a life changing few days at Kirribilli, walking along the beach at Manly on dusk, a broken spoon from Gelatteria at Circular Quay, Pancakes, The Rocks, Couran, China, Vaucluse… and perhaps a few broken promises. But most of all it reminds me of the lies that we tell ourselves… lies that take us away from the Truth and from Love.




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