Monthly Archive for March, 2005

Jonar Nader’s Logictivity

I found this on the website www.logictivity.com or www.losefriends.com

I love his work… and would love your thoughts on his comments and
assertions… it’ll probably take you about 10 minutes to go through
this thoroughly. If you’re interested, I’ll give you mine too ;)

JONAR’S MISSION

I am not on a mission to save the world. I am not on a mission to
achieve greatness. What I have realised as I have gained experience on
this beautiful planet is that I am supremely blessed and fortunate to
be alive and prosperous.

This has not always been the case. There was a time when I was not
alive, and there was a time when I was not prosperous. These days, I
do not measure my wealth in dollars. I am appalled at the number of
people who try so hard to make money. There are many ways to make
money. But what’s the point? To me, my mission is to live. To marvel
at how my eyes work. To stare at a flower and go weak with admiration
at the incomprehensible miracles of life and death. To observe my body
as a blob of flesh and bones that operates non-stop on air, water, and
glorious food. How is it so? How does it work? Amazing indeed!

I speak like a person who appreciates life. And I must admit that I
might not have been so passionate if it were not for the fact that I
nearly lost my life several times. Yes, I am one of those people who
came so near death that I am delighted to wake up every morning. When
I go for walks with friends, I have to halt and watch the sunset. I
have to freeze and watch the bird take flight. Many people do not
understand what it means to be alive.

BUILDING CONFIDENCE

There was also a time when I had no confidence. I was teased at school
for everything I did and everything I did not do. I was harassed about
what I had, and what I could not afford. I was tormented for being who
I was, and bullied for not being what others wanted me to be. I was
ridiculed for my looks and my features that I could not change. It was
jolly hard to please anyone.

When I began to realise that material wealth was of no value, and when
I began to feel a sense of urgency for life, and when I understood how
fragile we humans are, I started to take great offence at anyone who
stole my life. People used to steal my life by stealing my time. They
had me running around trying to please the boss. I worked day and
night to reach goals, make targets, meet deadlines, and for what? I
did not mind it when it was fun, exciting, and purposeful. But when
the dirty politics of corporate life sapped my energy, I became
furious. I took my anger out on the idiots and bastards who were
time-thieves. Sometimes I took my anger out on my family and friends.

The thieves went about their business by trying to intimidate me. They
tried to keep me on the run. They lied and cheated, but they did not
know what they were doing. Their soul was empty and they were unkind.
Interestingly, they were the ones who got promoted, who destroyed
confidence, who stabbed people in the back, and who got the accolades.
This still happens. I can’t believe it. I really can’t believe what I
see going on around me.

For many years I fought with these people. I took on every battle. I
stood up to every bully. As a result, I was attacked and bruised.
Almost every single time, my colleagues could not see what the fuss
was about. Invariably, three years later, they would apologise when
they twigged to their naivety.

Eventually, I began to understand that by fighting the idiots, I was
wasting my limited energy. I was better off trying to spend my time
with those who could benefit from it. I started to invest my energy in
helping others to gain their independence.

ONE DAY AT A TIME

My mission in life is very simple. I am selfish about life. I have a
gift to enjoy this planet, and I want to make sure that every day is
fabulous. I do still fight battles, argue, and stress out, but every
day I am getting better at reducing the nonsense.

You see, there are people out there who set about increasing their
material wealth, and they succeed, but their burdens increase also. I
am setting out to reduce my burdens and increase my pleasure.

Part of that mix includes a sense of responsibility. I do my humble
little bit to contribute to this world. I cannot solve world hunger,
but I can help just a few people within my means. I can’t clean up the
world, but I can pick up one piece of paper. I can’t purify the
waterways, but I can refrain from adding to the pollution.

I am not superhuman by any means. I have my ups and down, and I have
my needs and desires. I have my weak moments, and my perplexing
thoughts. Gladly, I am growing stronger and surer of foot. I like
myself now, and this has taken years to achieve.

So, I love what I do and I am happy with what I have. I desire a few
things, but I don’t feel that I lack anything. Indeed I am rich.

SHARING MY GIFTS

Part of my joyous spirit wants to share my excitement with others. I
do this in many ways. My books are all about exchanging knowledge. My
lectures are always urging others to strive for a better life.

I do not trade in shares on the stock market because I wholeheartedly
believe that trading in shares is unethical. It sounds funny to say
that. I know it sounds strange. However, I see the destruction and the
greed. Maybe one day I will elaborate on this subject.

I do not smoke. I have never smoked. I feel sorry for those who are
addicted. I feel sorry for those who feel that they have to start.
Furthermore, alcohol has never passed my lips. I am not virtuous. I
have my vices and my weaknesses also. I am not perfect. I am merely
able to control myself to the point where I can see that putting
alcohol and nicotine in my body is like putting sand in my new car’s
engine. Who would polish their new car with stone? Yet our body is a
trillion times more complex than the best car in the world. Why abuse
it when it is so important to us?

MY CHILDHOOD

I would not wish my childhood on anyone. I still get goose bumps when
I think about the cruelty I have suffered. I feel very sorry for the
boy Jonar who was in so much pain for years. However, it was my
challenge, and half of my life is nearly over. I have paid my dues,
and now I want to live. When you begin to understand my life from my
perspective, you might forgive me for being so passionate about what I
do and say, and what I choose to tackle.

FIGHTING TO SURVIVE

Those who get in my way are usually those who know that if I win the
battle, they will lose their ugly power bases. You can imagine what
levels they would stoop to in order to keep their positions of power.
I do not mind anyone having power. It’s just that I abhor unethical
selfish hypocrites whose miniscule brains get in the way of other
innocent beautiful souls who are trying to mind their own business.

If you want to see me in action, you should be around me when I see
people taking advantage of others. Many memories of my childhood play
out in my mind, as if in slow motion, with dramatic music. Alarm bells
start to ring, and I fly off the handle, hurling myself to quash the
insanity of people’s cruelty. Whether in a shopping centre, a theatre,
a car park, at the office, around a boardroom table, at a restaurant,
or over the phone, I know no limits when inconsiderate arrogant
bastards press my hot buttons. Many a security camera has caught me in
the act. One day I might end up on one of those home video TV shows —
caught in the act of reaching over the counter at a hotel and making
my presence felt.

TAKE LIFE SERIOUSLY

I am a peaceful person, and a caring person. But people often mistake
me for being passive. Then wham, they are in for a surprise. Don’t
cross nice people. Amongst them are the most dangerous.

I urge everyone to take life seriously. To fight when it is needed. To
stand up to bullies when they can. To push back the tide of cruelty at
every opportunity.

We can’t take on every fight. We can’t stand up to all the bullies.
Some bullies are stronger than us. But if we all did our little bit, I
am sure that the world will be a better place for the new generation.
Besides, angels rush from heaven to help those who are engaging in a
just fight. I have amassed strength and witnessed miracles that have
left me amazed. When angels come to your aide, there is nothing you
can’t do. Just go with the flow.

I wish you copious amounts of bravery, and lashings of audacity.

Jonar Nader

Cashflow contest…

Singapore is an evermore amazing place – now they’ve run a Cashflow game with real prize money!!!

When I was involved with Golden Key, we held a Cashflow night which was very successful… it’s the sort of skills that young people should be learning about, and gives a great context to educate and inspire people to strive for excellence while having a great time!

Time management and business

Time management

  • Focus
    Be 100% in the moment in whatever you are doing. Be totally focused on your relationship, your work or your relaxation when you are doing it; less than total focus leads to dispersion of energy and lost effectiveness. There is no balance in nature – equilibrium is a delusion; reality is a steady state… we live through punctuated equilibriums… a series of fixations. Focus on those moments of total intensity.
  • Prioritise
    Delete those activities that aren’t leading you to access your highest talents and highest self. Stop doing them or get someone else to do them for you.

Business
Supply what is missing. Give people what they need. Ask them what they would want to make things better; envision how things could be made better for them. Expand your margin through efficiencies and expand your volume through value chain integration and complimentary sales, but most importantly, supply what is missing.

Kiyosaki’s model for wealth

Many of us have come across concepts of financial intelligence, being financially ‘free’ and generally wanting to have more than we currently have. And while I wrote an article on going beyond financial freedom some time ago, I still have to hand it to old Bob: He’s got some good stuff.

I met Robert Kiyosaki when he was in Brisbane a few years ago. He was charming, poised and a great speaker. To me, his content is not revolutionary… indeed, it is the sort of truth that is self-evident once you hear it. It is amazing how few people realise the truth contained.

His website has a few pages on his basic ideas, in which he explains the Rich Dad Poor Dad model… I think it’s worth a quick look anyway.

Life Reengineering?

  • If you can totally reengineer your world, what would it look like, what would it sound like and what would it feel like? What would you value? What would you invest your time and energy towards? What would you want to feel on a regular basis? What would you need to leave behind.
  • If you want to live a life of love, when would you realise that all you nee to do is to eliminate all that is not love?
  • Michaelangelo said that his task was to liberate from the statue from the rough hewn block of marble…
  • To be the greatest you that has ever been, or will ever be… to demand more of yourself than anybody else could expect.
  • To compare yourself against the best that you can be… no against anybody else – there will always be those who are better and those “worse” than you; they have their path to follow too.

Branded?

To pander to their innane and delusional obsession with illusions is at best making oneself subject to their values and at worst a contemptuous joke… playing with their petty minds.

What is beauty?

Form and function alignment + Resonance with innate patterns

Pattern resonance may take the form of universal patterns, societal patterns and personal preferences… perhaps also the communication of a message. This also takes into account facial proportion findings, hip:waist ratios in women (indicating fertility) and shoulder widths in men (indicating strength and vitality). Proportions and colour are all able to be taken into account.

What is beautiful? An aluminium roof? A Moleskine? A rose? A smile? Could you get reliable form/function measures, combine these with resonance measures and explain the variance in a factor analysis of subjective beauty? Measures are likely to be state dependent, perhaps due to state-dependency of patterns or the quality of form-function relationship identification.

What are we born with and what do we learn? That sports cars should be low and sleek comes from a knowledge of aerodynamics… to what extent does education expand or refine our appreciation of beauty? To what extent does it leave us analysing at the expense of appreciating?

Date with Destiny???

A dear friend is heading to Tony Robbins’ Date with Destiny in less
than a fortnight… here are some of the thoughts that I offered her
recently:

I’m really looking forwards to seeing how much you get out of DwD. And
I really wonder just how open you can leave yourself to the lessons
that will be offered… it can be a frightening challenge, though one
that will reward you to the extent that you can tolerate the
excitement and adventure… the opportunity to totally reinvent
yourself, and align yourself as the beautiful loving person that I
know you really are.

I hope that you can take this in the wonderfully positive way that it
is intended: I’m excited at just how wrong the people who have
criticised you in the past will be shown to be when you have put down
the shit that has been holding you back!

The pursuit of happiness: Eudaimonia

For the ancient Greeks, Eudaimonia represented one of the highest
ideals. The term embodies a state of happiness, contentedness and
prosperousness combined… yet happiness remains an enigma for so many
of us. What is it? How can we experience it?

Kohlberg talked of stages of moral reasoning and suggested that we
pass through phases that he creatively called Preconventional,
Conventional and Postconventional. The Preconventional stage is that
of rules and punishment, that to behave according to norms established
by an authority figure is in one’s best interests. The Conventional
stage expands this to include law, duty and respect for authority
through loyalties to family, friends and society. Postconventional
ethics is focused upon the genuine interest in the welfare of others,
initially by asking, “What makes a society function?”, then
progressing to universal principles that take priority over the
formalised laws of society.

Yet there is little real ethical education. Having taken academic
courses in ethics within the fields of Psychology, Law and most
recently the University of Queensland’s MBA, I have a deal of
experience that suggests that academics are either too confused or too
frightened to take a stand and develop men and women of character. It
is far easier to just say “work it out for yourself” and punishing
people when they err than to deliberately develop the sort of thinking
and acting that we want to see in our future leaders and graduates.

Developing ethics is not difficult, but it takes courage. It takes the
courage to make assertions that are not necessarily supportable by
validated double-blind studies. It takes the courage to assert the
principles that we hold to be true, and to defend them against a
mainstream society that often disagrees.

Here are some of my basic principles:
1. All people are equal. Education, experiences and personal power
contribute to the responsibility that you have to contribute something
worthwhile to the community, though as an individual we each have
equal value.
2. We should seek truth. More than merely recycling quotes, we should
seek a life that focuses upon genuine principles and reality, rather
than following delusions. If you believe in a God, follow that God; if
you do not, seek to understand yourself and the world, and act
accordingly. I do not know how to derive meaning or purpose without
some form of God.

Do your bit… inspire others to do theirs.

Designing your life: A letter to myself, my children and my friends…

My Dear Friend,

I wanted to put two ideas into this letter for you to consider at your
convenience. Please bear in mind that these are my unedited thoughts
and attitudes, and should be taken purely as opinions. Some of the
things that I say may annoy you, and you may disagree with my
opinions.

I may be wrong, and that’s fine by me.

I will be as gentle and warm and loving as I can, and please remember
that everything that I say comes from a place of caring and love for
you… as someone that I care about very deeply, a beautiful
individual, whom I feel blessed to have come into contact with.

1. Your career options
You seem to be torn. On one side, you have the ‘old you’ that lived
through the opinions and attitudes of other people; the person who
advocated releasing barriers and being self-actualised. On the other
side, you have the ‘new you’ that wants to live your own life,
according to your own standards, your own rules and in pursuit of your
own happiness.

Standing up for what you believe in is very difficult at the best of
times, especially when so many of our role models and peers live in a
different world. While many of these people want to ‘keep you’ as part
of their ‘group,’ to live your own life, you have to decide what you
want to do for yourself. Living your own way – using degrees and
associations and networking and prestige as a vehicle rather than as a
purpose – is the path to happiness, and I think that you would
probably agree that it is the only ‘authentic’ life to live.

The ‘tribe’ is very persuasive. They criticise those who are
different, and strive to keep everybody within the safe confines of
the community. And those people do so for very good reasons, firstly
because they don’t want you to be disappointed if you fail. But, more
than this, I believe that they don’t want to be reminded that they too
have the capacity to do anything that they can imagine.

You can do anything. The issue, to be blunt and perhaps somewhat
provocative, is whether you want to live your own life, or to waste
your uniqueness.

Remember: The credit belongs to those who are actually in the arena…
not to those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat.

I am not always an ideal role model for this. My own fears can get in
the way of me achieving and contributing so much more than I arguably
could have… yet, while I postpone walking it, in a way I know the
path (or at least the direction) that I must follow.

It would be very easy for you to immerse yourself in learning stuff
for the next decade or two – and you would be exceptionally well
suited to such a life. Yet, would such a pursuit be any more
worthwhile than a life focused on money or power or anything else that
is so illusory?

In my opinion, we were not made to collect degrees. Just because I
have made that mistake doesn’t justify you making the same mistake
too! What if you could learn from my mistakes? Studying is a useful
vehicle for personal growth in that it provides a context to think,
develop and refine oneself… but the content is far less important
than the context.

So we will want to surround ourselves with rationally inspired
thinkers and conscientious workers (according to Pythagoras)… to
learn and to grow and to explore.

If I were to give you something concrete to direct your attention, I
would suggest that you want to focus on better understanding yourself,
understanding the world and reflecting upon those activities and
directions in which you are better qualified than anyone in the world.
That is where you can make your greatest contribution… that is where
you can use your talents the best… that is where you can make a
fortune.

For example, I feel myself to be a born educator, mentor and coach,
who is focused upon developing mental skills that allow individuals to
better access their personal genius. These skills, to me, are
desperately needed by our students and our community: I know about
them, and I understand their value better than most of my
contemporaries… that is my value and my uniqueness.

Focus on those things that you need to learn. You need to learn
something of business… something of education… something of social
change. And many other things. Rather than immersing yourself in study
calculated to distract you from your Opus, study towards it. You will
need to think differently… from your parents, from many of your
peers and from the way that you thought previously… than you have
before, since the level of thinking that has got you to where you are
cannot get you to where you want to go.

I understand that you want certainty – that you crave certainty – and
that you want to be able to tell other people (and yourself!) what you
are going to do in the second half of this year, and beyond. The
public and private answers need not be the same…

My dear, you can do anything that you want to do. Since the question
that you are asking is “what should I do?” perhaps it is worth giving
yourself the freedom to ask that question rather than rushing through
to finding an answer.

“Flow” requires a person to live in the moment. Flow requires you to
focus upon the environment in which you find yourself in that instant
of time, and enjoy it for what it is… totally immersing yourself in
the precious present… Releasing the negativity and resentment, and
focusing upon gratitude and love. If I were to reflect back to what I
learned in reading Seat of the Soul, perhaps part of the reason that
you have embarked upon a challenging semester is to learn how to
experience gratitude and love in the face of great pressure, stress
and adversity.

You can change the world if you want to, though what is far more
important is that you enjoy your life. You can be great: Though it
were better that you were the greatest you that will ever live, than
to achieve all the accolades of the world. Anyone can make money or
win a Nobel prize or even be a Doctor or a Lawyer. But only you can go
beyond the crap that society has lumped upon you, and be you. Please
do not confuse my suggestions for pursuing greatness as meaning
external greatness; quite the contrary, the greatest life is the one
that is lived for its own sake, rather than for the sake of others…
In my briefest opinion, you should do what makes you happy.

And, if I may finish with one more quote:
“The greatest thing you’ll ever learn, is just to love, and be loved in return.”

2. Creating a business
This is potentially immensely valuable, powerful and positively
aligned. Appropriated correctly, this could become an immensely
powerful vehicle for you to gain recognition, influence and affluence.
You are seeing many obstacles and problems: I am very happy to help
overcome them… that is what I do. There are indeed a number of
critical risks that need to be addressed.

For the moment, allow me to suggest something: Take notes of your
intuitions, thoughts and feelings about the program. The distribution
system needs to be developed… the content needs to be developed…
the marketing needs to be developed… the IP protection needs to be
developed. This is a very complex problem, though one filled with
simple and more sophisticated solutions. For the moment, note the
questions that arise – write them down – and allow your unconscious
mind to find answers without feeling pressured. All problems have a
solution, especially ones of business!

It now being very late, I shall now bid you good night… if you have
got this far, I trust that my rantings and opinions came across as
being from a place of love, affection and genuine caring for you. I do
believe in you, my dear, and believe that you have both the
opportunity and in a sense a duty to show the people around you what a
radiant example of humanity that you are… to remind them of what is
possible. Not necessarily as a ‘big achiever person’: but to simply be
the best you that you can be.

Thank you. You have taught me how to love in a way that I never
thought I could learn. Part of me is scared that you might reject me;
yet that part is steadily withering away. In its place, I feel myself
filling with a sense of giving love (to you and to those around me)…
because that is what I am supposed to be doing. I’m not always in that
‘place’, yet I know it – I have experienced it – and I am spending
more and more time there. Perhaps it sounds bizaare, even masochistic,
but I am more grateful than you could ever imagine for this insight.

When you have stuff inside that isn’t pure love, the best thing that
can happen is to let it go. And when you are only love, no matter what
happens, only love can come out.




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